7 Habits Of A Happier Mom

If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.

Have you heard of this saying? This is one of those sayings which I wholeheartedly agree. Not just mentally agree because I think it sounds true. But experientially agree. Because it has been proven time and time again in my life and in our family.

Whenever I find myself grumpy, my mood seemed to affect those of my family members. When I snapped at the kids or nagged at the hubby, the atmosphere in the family became tensed and negative.

Everyone was quiet. Nobody was happy.

On the contrary, whenever I was relaxed and cheerful, and smiled, laughed and joked, the atmosphere at home changed. There are more laughters. Everyone seemed relaxed. The hubby is happy. The kids are happy.

Is it the same in your family?

As mothers, we really do set the tone for our family. Well, I think fathers do too.

So, how can we ensure that we are able to set a positive atmosphere in our home?

I think there are some practical ways for mothers to do that.


Ways to be a Happier Mom

1. Do not be a martyr

Sounds easy but this can be hard for many mothers, especially those who are home based and hands on.

After taking care of everyone and the housework, you realised that there is no time nor energy left for yourself.

The irony is, your family suffers if you are a martyr. So, do not be one.

Which brings us to the next point.

2. Take care of yourself

Truth is, your family does not mind you taking care of yourself.

In fact, when you are well taken care of, you are a happier wife and mother.

Your family benefits from that.

3. Say no when needed and without feeling guilty

Sometimes, it is so hard for us to say no, especially to people we know or are close to us. But if we say ‘Yes’ to every single request, very soon, we will find ourselves feeling overwhelmed, frustrated and breathless. To be a happy mum, we must learn to say no without feeling guilty.

4. Start the day right


When the kids were younger, this was difficult. Most nights, I stayed up way too late and had interrupted sleep with the baby waking up for milk and the other one or two older kids waking up because of bad dreams, need water, need to go to the toilet, whatever other reasons they had.

As a result, most mornings I had to drag myself out of bed.

Now that the kids are all in primary school, my bedtime has shifted earlier and I am able to wake up in the morning feeling more refreshed and ready for the day.

Try to wake up earlier and have at least 15 to 30 minutes to yourself. You’ll find that it does wonders to your mood and attitude!

5. Prepare for the next day the night before

I like to plan for the following day before I go to bed the night. Such as what meals to cook, what clothes to wear, the kids’ school uniform for the next day, what work to be done and so on. Being ready is half the battle won.

6. Place reminders in your environment

Reminders can be in the form of photographs of happy moments with the family, positive and inspiring quotes, flowers and plants, in fact, anything that helps to lift your mood throughout the day.

An organised and well-decorated environment helps to lift your mood, especially when you are stressed during the day.

7. Take time to chill and laugh

Finally, laughter is the best form of medicine. To have a happy home, the members need to be happy.

That brings us back to the quote at the beginning of this post:

If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.

So, mothers, be happy. Laugh. Take time to chill. Take care of yourself.

When you are happy, your family will benefit and be happier too.


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